Fatherhood is tough, it is arguably one of the toughest jobs on earth but then fatherhood is also so sweet that there is no emotion or task quite comparable. I cannot say I am a successful dad the time is too young to make such claim, However, I know I share an unusual bond with my two biological kids and feel we share an emotional connection that is often absent in most father and children relationship. Fathers often get beat down with trying to provide for the family that they forget to be a friend and lover to their children, we get fixated on doing that we forget to be just there for our children and often time we wonder why they do not see our love.

One quick thought on being a good father is to model the ideal child to your children, with this I mean if you want them to do dishes, do it. If you want them to be honest, be honest, if you think they need to be friendly you be the friendliest guy. To use Pastor Timi Mogaji’s phrase “you have to beat at their game “. Many Fathers tell but do not show. We preach long sermons and break our backs to provide stuffs but forget to model to our kids real time the values we so desire they exhibit. I cook, do dishes, work hard, play hard, sweep floor, do laundry, do handyman’s work and lest forget read a lot so when I ask them to do these things there is no gap in my leadership.

Second quick thought is be vulnerable and honest with your kids. Children are more intelligent than we give them credit for and when we try to pretend they see through us. Some years ago, I wrongly accused my son of a bad behavior and later found out he was innocent so I called him before his friends and tendered an apology in everyone’s presence and asked for his forgiveness. He quickly forgave me and told me not to bother much. One of his friends who was present with his dad said waoh and immediately told his dad that can his dad see “Daddy sam” my vulnerability sent a message to him that he needs more of that from his own dad too. Good leaders are honest and vulnerable. Fathers in closing I see your hard-work and know how tough it is to be one and I hope we all succeed in this all important task.

HAPPY FATHERS DAY!!!